As you know, I’m a big fan of books! Right now, I’m reading UnF*ck Yourself, and I’ve gained some pretty valuable insights from the book thus far.
One theme that the author discusses throughout the book, and that really caught my attention is the idea around being willing.
It forced me to stop, think, and ask myself, “Am I willing?”
This question may sound easy, but often it isn’t because it demands a concrete answer. You can’t skirt around it with BS.
So, I made a list of what I was willing and unwilling to do.
Am I willing to stop living the life I had and willing to start living the life I’m after?
Am I willing to work out every day?
Am I willing to face my fears?
Am I willing to wake up early?
It turns out the biggest question for me was if I was willing to remain the same. In some cases, it was yes, and in so many cases, no.
And, that’s the great thing about this exercise!
There may be questions that you answer, “No, I am not willing!” And that is okay! It can actually be even more powerful than answering, “Yes. I am willing!”
Why?
Because coming to grips with the fact that you’re unwilling is powerful. It can be such a relief. Declaring your unwillingness is declaring the willingness to let it go (and to be perfectly fine with that). You can finally stop talking about what you are planning to accomplish when you know you never will.
Personally, I said I was unwilling to jog. I hate jogging! Now that I have committed to being unwilling, I no longer feel the pressure to jog or to force myself to enjoy it. And, that feels pretty damn good!
I encourage you to think about this concept. Make a list. Ponder it. Digest it. Commit. Are you willing, or are you unwilling?
If you want to talk through your list with me, I’m here, and you know where to find me.
Once again, life is still good!
Jeff